Dating. A Caribbean Woman's Perspective (Is it only in the Caribbean?)

Background Information:

I met my former boyfriend at a church camp. One evening he told me his feelings for me and I shared mine with him. He then asked for us to go on a date to Fat Andy’s where we got to know one another over a milk shake and fries. I’d like to think because I was really cute and he was really handsome, fireworks just ignited and it was inevitable that we share our first kiss after our date at Fat Andy’s (we did). He made sure that I got home, and I asked that he call when he got home. That was the beginning of dreams of the young and in strong like. (We lasted for seven years)

Fast forward to present:

Picture it, the Caribbean, 2018 (spin on Golden Girl Reference). See girl for a couple of weeks, finally say hi to girl, then ask if you can fuck girl.

Is this the dating scene around the world or just here in my little part of the Caribbean? It is so anti climatic. Especially if you are a female looking for a genuine relationship.

It is not to say that I am not aware of how the dating scene is these days. I just wonder if there are any males left that are willing to have a relationship instead of just fucking?

To answer my own question, from of course, my point of view, no. Well, that is until I see evidence to the contrary. My experiences for the last couple of years has always been; the preamble, ‘you look so good, you are really sweet’ which quickly turns into; ‘I got this dick here for you, girl stop playing and come for it’.

There has not been a single; would you like to go on a date? Can we talk and get to know one another? No, just invitations to have sex. So much so that I have started calling it ‘the thirst’. It is very real.

Seriously, we live in an instant gratification culture where we fast-forward and get to the ‘good stuff’ without taking time to go through the important parts. This is why they are so many failed relationships in my opinion. Alternatively, persons are just in relationships because of what they can get from the other person. For some that is company, for others money, sex and just having the status of being ‘in a relationship’.

I often wondered if my thinking is skewed in that I look at relationships a bit different, where it is seen as having a partner, a friend, a companion. It looks like this: girl meets boy, we talk about different things that either has us agreeing with one another (and we didn’t know we were so much alike, ohmygod) or we disagree and it doesn’t get ugly, this disagreement. No, we respect that we do not see eye to eye and it makes us respect each other because hey he/she has a point of view a different way of thinking that makes us  consider other ways of seeing things.

From there we build, yes what may have connected us was the obvious attraction but now we are attracted on another level, the mind. I think a good mix of both the attraction to body and mind makes for and builds a better relationship. What do you think?

With Love.